Comments on: Permission to Help http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/permission/ Dale Emery on Leadership Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:57:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Chris Morris http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/permission/#comment-201 Chris Morris Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/17/permission/#comment-201 Preach it, brother! Maybe one addition, which really doesn't fit the list, but part of the process of an explicit request for help may clarify what the person is looking for. Nothing more confusing than someone asking for help, but not sure what they need when someone else jumps in to solve the assumed problem. Preach it, brother!

Maybe one addition, which really doesn’t fit the list, but part of the process of an explicit request for help may clarify what the person is looking for. Nothing more confusing than someone asking for help, but not sure what they need when someone else jumps in to solve the assumed problem.

]]> By: Jürgen Ahting http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/permission/#comment-202 Jürgen Ahting Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/17/permission/#comment-202 Should every person by "simply describing a frustrating problem" be able gain veto-power over the use of your help to improve on that problem ? Should every person by “simply describing a frustrating problem” be able gain veto-power over the use of your help to improve on that problem ?

]]> By: Tim Bacon http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/permission/#comment-203 Tim Bacon Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/17/permission/#comment-203 Great advice: I've been tripped up before by my own hurriedness to offer help when it wasn't asked for! I find that active listening is an effective way to overcome the temptation to jump straight into someone else's problem with my own solutions. Great advice: I’ve been tripped up before by my own hurriedness to offer help when it wasn’t asked for!
I find that active listening is an effective way to overcome the temptation to jump straight into someone else’s problem with my own solutions.

]]> By: Dan Oestreich http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/permission/#comment-204 Dan Oestreich Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://cwd.dhemery.com/2004/10/17/permission/#comment-204 Thank you, Dale. These are great points. It took me ever so long to figure out that my feedback -- or any feedback -- is NOT the same as someone else's change process. Start from THEIR energy, find out what it is, ask for the permissions, offer what you can when you can. That's my take on it anyway. Thank you, Dale. These are great points. It took me ever so long to figure out that my feedback — or any feedback — is NOT the same as someone else’s change process. Start from THEIR energy, find out what it is, ask for the permissions, offer what you can when you can. That’s my take on it anyway.

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